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FALLING APART


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Discover How Others Have Overcome

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Life Does Not Play Favorites

But It Does Reward Good Thinking

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SOME PEOPLE


RIGHT NOW


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I'M FINE


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DOWN BUT NOT OUT SIGN


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CONQUER


FACE REALITY


TIME CHANGES IS A MYTH


WAKE UP KICK ASS REPEAT


EXERCISE THERAPY


ASK FOR WHAT YOU WANT


FALL SEVEN TIMES GET UP EIGHT


THE JOURNEY


FIGHT THROUGH BAD DAYS


LIFE IS NOT EASY


THINK BIG FROM THE HEART


GLOOMY AHEAD


BELIEVE IN YOUR JOURNEY


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WE ARE MAGICIANS WITH FORGOTTEN TRICKS ARTICLE BANNER

"I have not failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work."
Thomas Edison, Inventor of many things -- notably the lightbulb

Begin Again.
Again. Begin.

DOWN BUT NOT OUT MUSIC Down But Not Out may sound like an episode off that Oprah Winfrey show or some late-night motivational guru segment. But the phrase Down But Not Out is actually the mantra of many successful business-types that have faced great odds, miserable outcomes and daunting ambition.

They know the ebb and flow of life. And like that Frank Sinatra song, one day you`re up and the next day you're down. But you are never out. That`s important to know.

The truth about failure is really quite remarkable. It's known to the fabulously wealthy and those who have the fortitude to Begin Again one more time. It is known to athletes more than housewives, although some housewives know the secret as well.

It`s not a complicated truth amongst Life`s many rules. But it`s a hard one to get through to the brain. For we are a conditioned species, perceiving outcomes in black and white terms -- miserable failure or grand-slam success. When in fact, both results are perfect. They could be no other way, considering the inputs. Change the inputs and you change the result.

The secret is this: There is no such a beast as failure. There are results that are not wanted nor expected, but essentially failure does not exist. Thomas Edison claimed he had just found 10,000 ways not to build a lightbulb -- that speaks volumes to his perception of success and failure.

The old-time inventors and part-time philosophers (Einstein, Dale Carnegie, Zig Ziglar, Napoleon Hill) understood the connection between our perception of reality and reality itself. Apparently there`s not nuch in common. The wise know to study the result with no opinion. To dissect, like that frog in high school biology class, with careful observation the result and leave the name-tags for the next convention.

And although that maybe stating the obvious, labels count tremondously in the game of life. What one labels failure, another embraces as opportunity. Be careful. You maybe down, but you are definitely not out. Now there`s a good label for the lapel.

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FAILURES WHO CHANGED THE WORLD ARTICLE BANNER

Medium.com, Everday Epiphany
ALEXA DONCSECZ


BRAIN THOUGHTS The people who know the most about failure are the ones who have succeeded. It’s easy to get into the mentality that the greats have always been great, and that they have always been seen as superior at what they do. That is often far from the truth, but we don’t always hear about it. The greats to whom we have given such high regard have one very important thing in common, and that is persistence. There will be times in life when you are the only one who can see your vision, but that doesn’t make it any less real.

The name that has become synonymous with “genius,” Albert Einstein, didn’t speak until age four and didn’t read until age seven. So for all of you who have to endure the proud parent boasting about their two-year-old who peruses Aristotle on the weekends, forced to wonder whether you’re as smart as this kid is going to be, this one’s for you. Einstein went on to be expelled from school as a child and rejected from his college of choice, Zurich Polytechnic. But at the end of the day, his classmates couldn’t really compete with the theory of relativity.

Walt Disney, the mind behind the movies and parks that shaped many a childhood, apparently lacked imagination. And he was fired by the editor of his local newspaper because of it. His bad luck progressed to include failed business ventures, bankruptcy, and 302 rejections before finally receiving financing for Disney World. So the next time you get rejected, just remember…only 301 more attempts and you’ll be living your dream.

Theodor Seuss Giesel, better known today as Dr. Seuss, was rejected 27 times before his first book, And to Think that I Saw it on Mulberry Street was published. And J.K. Rowling, who is now richer than the Queen of England, went through 12 publishers before one of them took interest in Harry Potter. At the time, she was dirt poor, raising a child as a single parent, severely depressed, and trying to attend school. Here’s what she has to say about her success:

“You might never fail on the scale that I did, but it is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all — in which case you fail by default.”

Charles Darwin, the scientist who developed the theory of evolution by natural selection, gave up on a medical career and was chastised for being too lazy, for having his head in the clouds. Thomas Edison found 10,000 ways not to make a lightbulb light up before he could find one way that worked.

How often do you think we give up after attempt #9,999?

Winston Churchill was defeated in every single election for public office until age 62 when he ran for Prime Minister. Jerry Seinfeld was booed off the stage the first time he attempted comedy and Fred Astaire was told that he can’t act and can’t sing. Oprah Winfrey was deemed “unfit for TV” before she began the highest-rated talk show in American television history.

Out of more than 800 finished pieces, Vincent Van Gogh sold only a single painting during his lifetime, and that was to a friend for a small amount of money. Today his most expensive painting is valued at $142.7 million. And before Elvis Presley became the King he was fired by the manager of the Grand Ole Opry after only one performance, being told, “You ain’t goin’ nowhere, son.”

Stephen King received 30 rejections for his novel Carrie before finally throwing it in the trash. His wife dug it out and encouraged him to resubmit it, and that was the beginning of 49 novels selling 350 million copies (not to mention essentially having his own bookshelf in Barnes & Noble with his abundance of titles).

Michael Jordan was cut from the high school basketball team. It has been said that he missed more than 9,000 shots throughout his career and lost almost 300 games. He missed what could have been a winning shot on 26 occasions, and to this he says, “I have failed over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.” It’s like how Babe Ruth, who holds the record for strikeouts, says that “Every strike brings me closer to the next home run.”

Remember: The next time you get discouraged, consider that it could be your very next attempt that gets you to where you are trying to go, or perhaps it will be the one that propels you to something even better.

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EVERYBODY LOVES A COMEBACK ARTICLE BANNER

Guest Essay,
PETER DATCHMONT

There's a huge difference between humiliation and humility. To truly begin again, one of them must be turfed. Immediately. Guess which one?

In the rough and tumble world of failure when not much is left standing -- cracked foundations aside -- not many personal defects of character or emotions are worth turfing without further review. Humiliation is one of those. It's imperative you move from humiliation into humility as quickly as possible.

Humiliation will kill the spirit. Humility on the other hand will foster greatness. Humble is one very attractive quality on men, women and pets. More so dogs than cats. Humility does not necessarily arise from the fire of humiliation, but it can if you choose the right approach.

The trick is to extend forgiveness, no judgements, to another who is essentially struggling with what you've been through. In otherwords, be a friend to the friendless. Part of humiliation's sting is loneliness. That terrible sense that the whole world is laughing at you, kinda like that old BeeGee song.

So the comfort of another who understands precisely that bite means alot. Whatever you do from this moment forth, stand on the side of the demeaned and take no joy in another's troubles. That's what that great expression "but for the grace of God go I" actually means. Help someone. You've been there.

If you still marinate in shame and embarrassment there's a good chance fear is the cause. Fear that others can see you as you see yourself. Unless you are standing naked whistling show tunes in Times Square, there's a really good chance no-one knows your internal dialogue. If it is something tangible, take a moment to fix it, paint it or engage a plan to remedy the offending issue.

Humiliation has some truly nasty cousins. Like Shame. Guilty and Guilt. Self-loathing. And of course that nagging voice of embarrassment itself. Humiliation should be a fleeting glance across a crowded room and not a warm bed to curl up in. If you are humiliated, forgive yourself and cease fantasizing about the perceived failure.

And remember the quickest way to turn humiliation into humility is to seek out someone suffering the same fate. Stand together. Have a good laugh. Move on. That's Life.

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On to the topic of money. Or Lack the of it as would be the case.

It's easy to forget Life runs on money if you are filthy rich. But the filthy rich also know something you don't. They rarely share it of course.

For the rest of us, we never seem to stop toiling for the green-stuff. We never forget the cost of things, we always fear not having enough and when behind the eight-ball are willing to become enslaved to some high interest dubious characters. Oh yeah, fear of phone calls with no Caller ID -- if the phone still works.

Like that lotto-winner, who simply peered into the camera, saying "Poverty Sucks". Three times. And walked out. It was a short news conference.

No other way to put it really. That you require money to function on this planet is pretty self-evident, but it cannot be overstated the true value of having the bills paid and your financial affairs in order are all in your head -- both figuratively and literally. It's called: Peace Of Mind. The brain is no longer focused on providing you scenerios of impending doom. And it's a beautiful thing to be experienced.

Even the rich pretend to be poor on occasion to generate that inner solace of knowing they can weather any storm approaching. It's a silent nudge-nudge wink-wink to themselves. Why not, it feels good. Nothing wrong with that. Poor people aspire to be rich. Rich people like forcasting worst case scenerios.

Without money in the bank? One Ply Toilet-Paper. Disconnection Notices. Repossession Foreclosure Research Documents. Collection Agencies. Towing Companies. Macaroni And Cheese No Name Brand. Intense Discussions About Bottle Recycling. Watching Alot Of Pawnstore-related Tv Shows. One Word: Coupons. Two Words: Family Haircuts. Three Words: Home Equity Gouge. Heinz Ketchup Packets Now Take Home Item. Plan To Cancel Cable/Get Rabbit Ears Fails. Car Seats Recline All The Way. Pets Need To Start Pulling Their Weight. Lotto Tickets. Lots Of Lotto Tickets.

You get the idea. The phrase "It Gets Complicated" should be reserved for the struggling masses alone. Ask anyone who has ever experienced lack of funds, for an extended period of time, and you'll get the same answer: Quickly Complicated.

For some poor souls, a mechanical break-down on the family vehicle can truly become the beginning of the end. Life on the edge of financial ruin is not for the timid. No siree, Bob. But not everyone is unhappy in financial poverty. Some merely perceive it as a temporary condition to be passed through and not wallowed in -- somehow they focus on who they wish to be and not the results of the present moment. Tough to do. They live that mantra: Down But Not Out.

A FEW TIPS ARTICLE HEAD

Everbody loves a comeback. How does one get "there" from "here"? Although you may feel different, weary bones and all, there is hope for your return to financial plenty. It can and does get better. Life Is Good, it has nothing to do with wallet size. Money is freedom of choice, nothing can beat it to get things done.

Here's a few tips that others have found of interest to pass along in no particular order. We'll add more when they arrive. If you've discovered a useful tip, someone just like you would appreciate the contribution. You'll find videos to do with this topic smattered about, so poke around until something strikes a chord. You can overcome any setbacks if you see them as setbacks and not a reflection of who you are. You maybe down, but you are not out. Remember that. It's temporary.

Everything you have in Life can be taken from you except one thing: Your freedom to choose how you respond to the situation. This is what determines the quality of the Life we live. Not whether we've been rich or poor, famous or unknown, healthy or suffering. What determines our quality of Life is how we relate to these realities. What state of mind we allow them to trigger. That statement was Vicktor Frankl (1905 - 1997) who knew something of loss, as a holocost survivor, stripped of everything except his thoughts. These are truths of Life.

Forgive yourself and mean it. Make an honest assessment of how you arrived into this predicament. No BS or excuses. Take full responsibility for it all. That maybe easier said than done of course. Circumstances and people (layoffs, fraud, dishonesty) may play a big role in your dillemma, but the trick is to own it all. It will allow you to look forward and not focused on what you don't want. And most importantly forgive yourself. You are human, it's all a work in progress.

Get a plan, now. Short, mid-range and longterm. But stay focused on short-term results oriented projects. Do things that you can do successfully -- string enough of those together and you arrive at your midterm goal. Salesmen will tell you that magic happens if they 'make one more' sales call. Persistence must be part of your new mindset. Ignore the results that you don't wish.
And get the shortterm plan in gear before the tank is completely empty. The real issue many face is the impending doom has now arrived -- in otherwords, take the crappy opportunity (flipping burgers) before foreclosure and not after. Be disciplined enough to treat the emergency stash as just that -- unavoidable red-hot emergency funds.
Even a lousy strategy and poorly executed plan will move you forward. Get moving. You may even impress your toughest critic -- You!

Shame is paralyzing. Your failure has no doubt caused some embarrasment. Few can withstand the harsh critic inside there own brain, let alone the outside gawkers. Get over that awkward feeling while it's still embarrasment. Humility is not humiliation. Paralysis can cause further decay.

Gratitude & Inventory. Gratitude is not a character trait you either have or you don't. That's a myth. You can develop grattitude by taking physical and personal inventory of what useful and useable bits and pieces you have left to begin your remodel project -- the renovation is you. It's a perfect time to also turf any components that no longer function or have outlived their usefulness.

But to find some peace and happiness in the midst of financial crisis seems to boil down to two key attributes: The One Known As Gratitude; the other trait Known as Compassion -- congratulations, you Still Give A Shit.

The theory is that Gratitude shifts the brains' focus to what is good. And what is tangible. What is right before your eyes. That's why those with so little are so grateful. They've experienced worse conditions and now are thankful it's better.

DON'T EVER GIVE UP ARTICLE HEAD

You maybe down, you maybe beat, but you are most definitely not out of the game called Life. The fact that you've stumbled upon this website indicates you are seeking change. On average, successful people have failed far more often than they have succeeded -- like Babe Ruth, who holds both Home-run and Strike-out records. It appears that failure, like lousy finances, is merely temporary.

If your struggling, sad as it may seem, the diagnosis and amateur prognosis looks very healthy. For when the struggle goes -- that unhappy brooding about the way things are -- so goes any hope of turning the Titanic around. Struggle indicates willpower. There's still a willingness to get out there and struggle amongst the masses.

Willpower provides an intensely powerful yet temporary boost. Think of it as a one-shot thruster. It burns out quickly, but if directed intelligently, it can provide the burst you need to overcome inertia and create momentum. Fire it up at will.

For willpower has willed into being every creation we have on this planet -- not one thing would we enjoy if the men and women behind such inventions lacked the will to bring them into being. And that's up against impossible odds in many cases. Henry Ford claimed his success was just a willingness to do whatever it took.

"The difference between a successful person and others is not a lack of strength, not a lack of knowledge, but rather a lack of will." Vince Lombardi, football coach, knew a few things. And what if you have no will? You've given up. Or you say you have the will, but your actions betray you. What then?

How does one get the will to begin again when it's been a rough go -- finances wiped out, business failure, foreclosures, homeless, deadend job, unmet obligations, the list is lengthy -- and you're getting weary? There are answers to make the working class struggle less of a burden. We'll address those next week. Check the archives for related Down But Not Out topics.

Remember: Life Is Good. The moment may not tbe desireable. No matter what you are up against -- generally a concrete wall -- don`t ever give up.

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IN PRAISE OF THE NO GOAL LIFESTYLE ARTICLE HEAD

Guest Post, Zen Habits
LEO BABUATA

“With the past, I have nothing to do; nor with the future. I live now.” 
~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

The idea of having concrete, achievable goals seem to be deeply ingrained in our culture. I know I lived with goals for many years, and in fact a big part of my writings here on Zen Habits are about how to set and achieve goals.

These days, however, I live without goals, for the most part. It’s absolutely liberating, and contrary to what you might have been taught, it absolutely doesn’t mean you stop achieving things.

It means you stop letting yourself be limited by goals.

Consider this common belief: “You’ll never get anywhere unless you know where you’re going.” This seems so common sensical, and yet it’s obviously not true if you stop to think about it. Conduct a simple experiment: go outside and walk in a random direction, and feel free to change directions randomly. After 20 minutes, an hour … you’ll be somewhere! It’s just that you didn’t know you were going to end up there.

And there’s the rub: you have to open your mind to going places you never expected to go. If you live without goals, you’ll explore new territory. You’ll learn some unexpected things. You’ll end up in surprising places. That’s the beauty of this philosophy, but it’s also a difficult transition.

Today, I live mostly without goals. Now and then I start coming up with a goal, but I’m letting them go. Living without goals hasn’t ever been an actual goal of mine … it’s just something I’m learning that I enjoy more, that is incredibly freeing, that works with the lifestyle of following my passion that I’ve developed.

THE PROBLEM WITH GOALS ARTICLE HEAD



In the past, I’d set a goal or three for the year, and then sub-goals for each month. Then I’d figure out what action steps to take each week and each day, and try to focus my day on those steps.

Unfortunately, it never, ever works out this neatly. You all know this. You know you need to work on an action step, and you try to keep the end goal in mind to motivate yourself. But this action step might be something you dread, and so you procrastinate. You do other work, or you check email or Facebook, or you goof off.

And so your weekly goals and monthly goals get pushed back or side-tracked, and you get discouraged because you have no discipline. And goals are too hard to achieve. So now what? Well, you review your goals and reset them. You create a new set of sub-goals and action plans. You know where you’re going, because you have goals!

Of course, you don’t actually end up getting there. Sometimes you achieve the goal and then you feel amazing. But most of the time you don’t achieve them and you blame it on yourself.

Here’s the secret: the problem isn’t you, it’s the system! Goals as a system are set up for failure.

Even when you do things exactly right, it’s not ideal. Here’s why: you are extremely limited in your actions. When you don’t feel like doing something, you have to force yourself to do it. Your path is chosen, so you don’t have room to explore new territory. You have to follow the plan, even when you’re passionate about something else.

Some goal systems are more flexible, but nothing is as flexible as having no goals.

HOW IT WORKS ARTICLE HEAD



So what does a life without goals look like? In practice, it’s very different than one with goals.

You don’t set a goal for the year, nor for the month, nor for the week or day. You don’t obsess about tracking, or actionable steps. You don’t even need a to-do list, though it doesn’t hurt to write down reminders if you like.

What do you do, then? Lay around on the couch all day, sleeping and watching TV and eating Ho-Hos? No, you simply do. You find something you’re passionate about, and do it. Just because you don’t have goals doesn’t mean you do nothing — you can create, you can produce, you can follow your passion.

And in practice, this is a wonderful thing: you wake up and do what you’re passionate about. For me, that’s usually Homelessging, but it can be writing a novel or an ebook or my next book or creating a course to help others or connecting with incredible people or spending time with my wife or playing with my kids. There’s no limit, because I’m free.

In the end, I usually end up achieving more than if I had goals, because I’m always doing something I’m excited about. But whether I achieve or not isn’t the point at all: all that matters is that I’m doing what I love, always.

I end up in places that are wonderful, surprising, great. I just didn’t know I would get there when I started.

QUICK QUESTIONS ARTICLE HEAD



Question from a reader: Isn’t having no goals a goal?

Quick answer: It can be a goal, or you can learn to do it along the journey, by exploring new methods. I’m always learning new things (like having no goals) without setting out to learn them in the first place.

Another question from a reader: So how do you make a living?

Answer: Passionately! Again, not having goals doesn’t mean you stop doing things. In fact, I do many things, all the time, but I do them because I love doing them.

Tips for living without goals

I am not going to give you a how-to manual for living without goals — that would be absurd. I can’t teach you what to do — you need to find your own path.

But I can share some things I’ve learned, in hopes that it will help you:

Remember: the journey is all. The destination is beside the point.

‘A good traveller has no fixed plans, and is not intent on arriving.’ 
~ Lao Tzu

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